Love Advice 101
No matter how much you ask for advice from people, it’s still you who’s going to decide what are you going to do with that situation. Your relationship may be going through a lot of problems as of now, and maybe the best thing to do is let him miss you. Do not give him the satisfaction that you can’t make it without him. It’s okay to say you love him, of course, he’s your boyfriend. But sometimes, no matter how hard it is, you have to give him time to grow. Giving him time doesn’t mean, break up with him. Just give him time to think things over. You might say that you didn’t do anything. But people’s feelings are very fickle that it may change any moment. If he doesn’t want to text you, you don’t have to ask him to text you. It will hurt, but you must try to ignore him one time to know if he will be bothered. What should you do if in case he breaks up with you? Let him go. Because if a guy really loves you, he won’t let one simple misunderstanding to ruin your relationship. If he’s not brave enough to fight for you, he’s not a man enough to be your boyfriend.
What’s it about LOVE that people end up hurting themselves yet wanting to love again?
I am not a love doctor with a Ph.D in Romance Physics nor a graduate of M.A in Relationship Chemistry, but I can tell you the answer.
I’ve been writing several things about love for so many years now. I actually started when I as in high school, when all the fresh mushy feelings about having crushes, infatuations, puppy love, and first love happened. In this phase, you have no idea how it feels, but then the curiosity kills you that you keep on telling yourself that you should try.
Reading articles and books about love, how people experience it and how they get through it gives me the idea of writing a book about what I know in love. I may be as young as 21 years old, though not experienced enough about love, I know I can describe how happy and painful it can get at times. I’ve written so many stories, articles, and blogs about love, yet I am not satisfied with what I have shared through the people who have read my works online.
Love stories, movies, and other write-ups tells the secret recipes in love, but what’s really about this so-called LOVE that even though people end up hurting themselves still want to love again?
You’re in the Friend Zone if he/she is…
Never calls you first
You’re always the first to call, text, or email, whether it’s just to say hi or to make plans to hang out? Unless this person is extremely shy, if he rarely or never makes the first move, it’s highly likely he considers you just a friend. He may like you, but he’s not going out of his way to keep in touch.
Always Hanging Out In A Group
Maybe she is just shy or taking things slowly, but if someone is interested in you, she’ll generally do all she can to spend one-on-one time with you. If she hasn’t suggested spending alone time with you, she likely doesn’t think of you as more than a friend.
Not Touching You
While some people are naturally “touchy-feely” with everyone, in general, someone who is interested in you is more likely to try to get close to you and make some sort of body contact. If he never touches you, pulls away when you touch him, doesn’t touch you in return, or has closed-off body language, he probably doesn’t like you in that way.
Have you two had any deep and meaningful conversations recently? You know, more than just chatting about the big game or what you watched on TV last night. Sharing heart-to-heart conversations about key events in your life, what’s most important to you, and your plans for the future could be a sign that he or she wants to get to know you better and possibly take your relationship further. Likewise, an absence of such conversation might well be a clue that you’ve been relegated to the friend zone.
Someone who likes you as more than a friend is not going to miss an opportunity to be with you. He’ll leap at any chance to spend time in your presence. So, if he frequently has an excuse about why he won’t be able to make it, or if he often cancels or doesn’t show up, chances are you’re not a major priority.
Talking About Other People He/She Likes
It’s a pretty big clue that you’re deeply entrenched in the friend zone if the object of your affection mentions other cute guys she’d like to date. On the other hand, if she tells you about how other people she’s dated were such jerks (unlike you!), the outlook may be brighter.
Trying To Hook You Up With Their Friends
If your desired one starts to play cupid and not so subtly tries to set you up with one of her friends, you can pretty much give up on ever getting out of the friend zone. You’re such a good friend that she wants you to be happy — with someone else.
Lack of Eye Contact
While gazing into one another’s eyes is one of the key signs of a blossoming relationship, lack of serious eye contact may indicate the opposite. Test it out — does he hold your gaze or avoid it?
Not Making an Effort in Appearance
A key indicator that your special someone has lumped you into her friend zone is if she doesn’t try to look her best for you. If she’s in her PMS sweatpants sans makeup more often than not when you’re together, she’s clearly not trying to impress you. It may be time to move on.
Referring to You as Just a Friend
Does he constantly refer to you as “just a friend,” or even worse, as like a sister to him? If so, things are not looking good. He’s making it pretty clear that you are well within the friend zone, and you’ll just have to make the best of it. Put your chin up, and move on. There’s plenty more fish in the sea, and the right person for you will come along before you know it!
When I’m in love, I write about that person
My attention is focused on how he has become a huge part of my life. I describe how happy I am to be having someone like him. I pen down all the mushy feelings I feel for him, how he really inspire me on a day-to-day basis, how his affection has gotten into my nerves and makes me go crazy day by day. I write about that person, how I wanted t have a future with him, how i wanted our life to be for the few years to come. When I’m in love, I write about that person, and let all my literary pieces be about him.
But then when I fall out of love, I still write about that person. How hurtful it was to be losing him, and how sorrowful that day has become when our love has ended. I can describe how painful the pain is; like it’s simply stabbing myself to death, but in a minute I realize that scratching the scar is hard while letting it bleed once more; like I’m digging my very own grave and burying myself alive.
When I fall in love with you, I’ll surely write about you. How you make me happy, how I love you, and how special you are. But don’t try to hurt me. I’d still write about you. But this time, I can kill you with these words left unspoken.
Let go, and Let God.
Forgetting the person you loved is simply one of the hardest part of moving on. Seeing the one you loved, the one you used to own, happy with someone new, is the greatest torture that you could ever do to your heart.
Hearts will break, tears will fall, shut eyes, wet pillows, sleepless nights. You have to go through that hell before you can finally overcome the pain.
You have to go through all the denying stage, that you’re okay and everything is doing good. But after all the pain has been washed away, everything will fall perfectly into place and you’ll realize that you can start living your life without that pain anymore.
Letting go is hard. But if you let god enter your heart and decide what’s good for you, you’ll be fine. You’re on the right track.
The last time I checked, you still have my heart
But then, I realized that I have to get over the fact that your heart is no longer mine. Hey, I know that we can never get back again. I know how everything we had before can no longer be happening today. At least I had the chance to own you for quite some time. I felt your love, I felt special with you. But people change and so do feelings. I just have to accept that from now on, everything we had will just remain a memory that will forever and always be in my heart.
SHYIEE | Single
I'm a Mass Communication graduate, super Fangirl of a guy named Enchong Dee , and a frustrated radio jock. I love panda so much.
Hi. This is my cradle of love. I post random feelings about love, how it feels so right and how much it hurts. I'm a self-confessed writer, and a born love doctor. I also post things about my day, how it went, and how I wished it was supposed to happen. I'm no longer a teen, but I'm a teenage drama queen. I'm softhearted, and weak. But I won't break. Come witness another love story with me.