What’s it about LOVE that people end up hurting themselves yet wanting to love again?
I am not a love doctor with a Ph.D in Romance Physics nor a graduate of M.A in Relationship Chemistry, but I can tell you the answer.
I’ve been writing several things about love for so many years now. I actually started when I as in high school, when all the fresh mushy feelings about having crushes, infatuations, puppy love, and first love happened. In this phase, you have no idea how it feels, but then the curiosity kills you that you keep on telling yourself that you should try.
Reading articles and books about love, how people experience it and how they get through it gives me the idea of writing a book about what I know in love. I may be as young as 21 years old, though not experienced enough about love, I know I can describe how happy and painful it can get at times. I’ve written so many stories, articles, and blogs about love, yet I am not satisfied with what I have shared through the people who have read my works online.
Love stories, movies, and other write-ups tells the secret recipes in love, but what’s really about this so-called LOVE that even though people end up hurting themselves still want to love again?
You’re in the Friend Zone if he/she is…
Never calls you first
You’re always the first to call, text, or email, whether it’s just to say hi or to make plans to hang out? Unless this person is extremely shy, if he rarely or never makes the first move, it’s highly likely he considers you just a friend. He may like you, but he’s not going out of his way to keep in touch.
Always Hanging Out In A Group
Maybe she is just shy or taking things slowly, but if someone is interested in you, she’ll generally do all she can to spend one-on-one time with you. If she hasn’t suggested spending alone time with you, she likely doesn’t think of you as more than a friend.
Not Touching You
While some people are naturally “touchy-feely” with everyone, in general, someone who is interested in you is more likely to try to get close to you and make some sort of body contact. If he never touches you, pulls away when you touch him, doesn’t touch you in return, or has closed-off body language, he probably doesn’t like you in that way.
Have you two had any deep and meaningful conversations recently? You know, more than just chatting about the big game or what you watched on TV last night. Sharing heart-to-heart conversations about key events in your life, what’s most important to you, and your plans for the future could be a sign that he or she wants to get to know you better and possibly take your relationship further. Likewise, an absence of such conversation might well be a clue that you’ve been relegated to the friend zone.
Someone who likes you as more than a friend is not going to miss an opportunity to be with you. He’ll leap at any chance to spend time in your presence. So, if he frequently has an excuse about why he won’t be able to make it, or if he often cancels or doesn’t show up, chances are you’re not a major priority.
Talking About Other People He/She Likes
It’s a pretty big clue that you’re deeply entrenched in the friend zone if the object of your affection mentions other cute guys she’d like to date. On the other hand, if she tells you about how other people she’s dated were such jerks (unlike you!), the outlook may be brighter.
Trying To Hook You Up With Their Friends
If your desired one starts to play cupid and not so subtly tries to set you up with one of her friends, you can pretty much give up on ever getting out of the friend zone. You’re such a good friend that she wants you to be happy — with someone else.
Lack of Eye Contact
While gazing into one another’s eyes is one of the key signs of a blossoming relationship, lack of serious eye contact may indicate the opposite. Test it out — does he hold your gaze or avoid it?
Not Making an Effort in Appearance
A key indicator that your special someone has lumped you into her friend zone is if she doesn’t try to look her best for you. If she’s in her PMS sweatpants sans makeup more often than not when you’re together, she’s clearly not trying to impress you. It may be time to move on.
Referring to You as Just a Friend
Does he constantly refer to you as “just a friend,” or even worse, as like a sister to him? If so, things are not looking good. He’s making it pretty clear that you are well within the friend zone, and you’ll just have to make the best of it. Put your chin up, and move on. There’s plenty more fish in the sea, and the right person for you will come along before you know it!
‘I love you’ means that I accept you for the person that you are, and that I do not wish to change you into someone else. It means that I will love you and stand by you even through the worst of times. It means loving you when you’re in a bad mood or too tired to do things I want to do. It means loving you when you’re down, not just when you’re fun to be with. I love you means that I know your deepest secrets and do not judge you for them, asking in return only that you do not judge me for mine. It means that I care enough to fight for what we have and that I love you enough not to let go. It means thinking of you, dreaming of you, wanting and needing you constantly, hoping you feel the same way for me.
Di ka niya naaappreciate pero todo effort ka pa rin. Bakit? Mahal mo eh. Kaya kahit sinasaktan mo sarili mo sa ginagawa mo, nababalewala ka man niya, OK LANG sayo. Basta alam mo, masaya ka sa kanya kahit nasasaktan ka.
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I want a boy who will move the hair away from my eyes, and then kiss me. Who will hold my hand in line at the mall and make all the girls jealous, a boy who will sing to me at random moments and who lets me sleep on his chest. I want a guy who will tell his family and friends all about me. Bring me soup or orange juice when I’m sick. I want a boy who is more goofy than romantic, but knows the right things to say at the right times. I want a boy who will call me 3 times a day if he went away. A boy who will apologize for calling too much, and no matter how many times I tell him its okay, he’d still do it. A boy who will let me gossip to him and just smile and agree with everything I say. A boy who will throw stuffed animals at me when I acted dumb and then jump on me and kiss me a million times. Who will bet kisses on who could beat who on at game, which makes fun of me just to make me laugh? A boy who will surprise me with 25 cent ring and we could have contest of how far we can spit our gum. Who will take me to the park, put his hands around my waist and give me big bear hugs all the time, a boy who will kiss my neck just to have a reason to tell me how much he loves my new perfume. I want a boy who, at night, who will dance in his pajamas with me. A boy who will take pictures in photo booths with me, someone who will never turn down a trip to the lake and who will play tag on the beach with me, a boy who could sit with me on the kitchen floor and eat sandwiches, who will kiss me in the pouring rain. I want a boy who would try to teach me how to play the guitar, even if we just end up laughing at each other. I want a boy who will run his fingers through my hair, share his lollipops with me, and get along with all of my friends. Someone who would never be afraid to say I love you in front of his friends and someone who would argue with me about silly things just to make up. I want a boy who will take me to target to just make fun of some of the stuff there. Someone who will kiss me atmidnight on new years and who will make funny faces at me when I’m on the phone. I want a boy who will count stars with me and be friends with my family. I want a boy who will stay home with me on a Friday night just to help me make dinner and watch movies together under the same blanket. Someone who will squirt water guns at me in the house after I’ve got him soaked. I want a boy who looks me the eye and tell me something serious, that was also funny and make me promise not to laugh. A boy who could make me laugh like no one else can. I want a boy who will hold me closer than normal when I’m sick, and would play with my hair.
But, mostly I want a boy who is my best friend and will always be there for me. I want a boy who is a man, like you ♥
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SHYIEE | Single
I'm a Mass Communication graduate, super Fangirl of a guy named Enchong Dee , and a frustrated radio jock. I love panda so much.
Hi. This is my cradle of love. I post random feelings about love, how it feels so right and how much it hurts. I'm a self-confessed writer, and a born love doctor. I also post things about my day, how it went, and how I wished it was supposed to happen. I'm no longer a teen, but I'm a teenage drama queen. I'm softhearted, and weak. But I won't break. Come witness another love story with me.